I have to completely agree with justamom! Independence is a very attractive quality, especially when it comes to guys. I don't remember where I heard it from but someone told me that the person who controls the relationship is the one who cares the least. I know this sounds awful but if you think about it, it makes sense. I'm not saying you should stop caring about him, but if you're calling him three times a day, not going out on weekend nights to wait for him to call (like I have seen many of my friends do), and are making all of these sacrifices for him, it is easier to become the weaker person in the relationship. You are a person too, go out and have fun, meet new people, and have a good time. You are more attractive to your bf because he is more likely to miss the girl he knew (happy,fun) rather than you depressed or clingy...
This is all speaking from experience. (yes i was the clingy girl). I know that relationships are not about control but after our relationship was over I could see how miserable and depressed I was and how much fun he had. I think that if we both were having fun (but still missed each other) things would have been better.
But maybe you are one of those lucky girls that has a bf who is really committed and you have absolutly nothing to worry about. If this is you, I know it's hard but go out and have fun. Try to do things for yourself this month before you start college. (Because you'll be really busy once it starts)
Last edited by Angelic; 08-22-2002 at 12:56 PM.
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