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Originally Posted by aephi alum
I remember, back when I was in college, learning some basic things to be mindful of - in general, not just at fraternity mixers. One of them was, if a fraternity member tries to get you to drink the "special punch for the ladies", DON'T, because odds are there's something more harmful than alcohol in it. That was 20+ years ago. It's sad that we still need to be giving this exact same advice to young women.
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God, I hope that's not the case. I want to believe cases such as this one are outliers. From the other side of things, having belonged to a fraternity whose members would furnish that "special punch for the ladies," we did that because we were good hosts and our female guests mostly didn't drink the natty light swill we had become accustomed to.
Everyone can do better. If there's a chapter which is known as "that chapter," then the victims need to do a better job coming forward, anyone, including members with any knowledge needs to come forward. I have been pushing bystander intervention training every chance I get at my alma mater and within my chapter. It's sickening to think that any chapter would have this sort of behavior be prevalent and known in the community and that they would not be immediately investigated and shut down if the reputation was deserved. (and to be clear, I'm not referring to the chapter this thread is about, just the issue of having a chapter on campus which is hypothetically well known for housing rapists being allowed to continue in operation).