[NYCMS]

NerdyGreek, I'm struck by a number of things in your posts - and I agree with my Panhellenic sisters in their responses. A few questions:

1) Did you know how brutally competitive rush at Ole Miss is?
2) Did your daughter have any connections? If not, then being released by many houses is par for the course. No reflection on her, it's the way rush is. Even Ole Miss chapter legacies are cut now (try consoling an OM mom whose daughter was cut from her house...).
3) Re: costs. They were publicized so the cost could have been estimated just using the most expensive cost to be safe.
4) Are you from out of the region with little to no knowledge of Ole Miss and how rush works there? I'm curious what your information was, especially as to the sizes of the chapters. Seems like there were expectations that don't mesh with the reality of sorority life there.

Now, your daughter has the opportunity to learn the lesson of her life: that you don't always get what you want and that life is what you make of it. As others have said, if a girl can't find 10 members to bond with over a semester or two, she's not trying and she likely has an attitude of "I'm too good for this sorority."

I work with counselors in college student counseling centers and repeatedly hear one thing: that kids today expect everything to happen easily and immediately. They've been raised in a "trophy" culture so naturally they expect to get what they want. Technology has made all of us impatient, but kids have grown up with it non-stop.

This is your daughter's best shot at being Greek. Re-rushing as a sophomore at Ole Miss is rarely, if ever, successful, especially since many chapters have a "once cut, always cut" policy.

I hope she will stick it out (if you can afford it) because the benefits last for life and the lessons learned by going forward with commitment will pay benefits in the years to come as well.