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This sounds very much like my daughter's early experience. She accepted a bid from her second choice and was lukewarm from the start. Her Bid Day experience was difficult because girls were ecstatic and she was still pining for the one that got away. Additionally, she was a bit overwhelmed getting settled with college classes, a big campus and lots of other new things - she just didn't have much emotional energy for falling in love with her sorority.
Every phone call home was full of doubt and I just kept advising her to hang in there, attend every single thing that she could, accept every invitation to join sisters in activities and to quit comparing herself to those joyous, gushy pledge sisters because to be honest, she isn't the gushy type about anything!
Bit by bit, she began to love her sorority and made dear life-long friends! She never did gush - that isn't her style, but she can't imagine her life without her sisters.
I think that sometimes the talk of "I found my home" and "I love my sisters!!!" is just too much hype for young women that are more reserved or slow to warm up. Help your daughter by keeping her expectations realistic. Hopefully, she will settle in!
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