[FSUZeta]

Wise counsel from all my Panhellenic sisters. I want to reiterate that as long as she continues in contact with her friends in her top choice and lusting after that chapter, she will not be happy with the sorority that did want her. Her best bet is to concentrate on HER chapter, specifically her pledge class, which at a competitive U, will have a big enough mix of girls to find a friend, no matter what her interests are. Walk with some pledge sisters to the house, invite them to study, or go get coffee or ice cream with them. Go to the house for her meals, or sit with sisters in the cafeteria. She has to make a concerted effort to even begin to feel comfortable in any new situation. New members do not automatically feel a part of the sorority in the beginning. Some girls are just better at faking it until the true feelings develope.