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James-
Here's my situation (don't worry, I really don't mind talking about it) and why I have no sympathy for my biological father. My parents were very young when I was born and they were never married. My father wanted my mom to abort me and she didn't want to, so after I was born he pretty much acted like I didn't exist outside of the check he had to send every month. The only reason I ever met him was because my mom wanted to increase the child support (he got away with paying practically nothing until I was 12) and he said he wouldn't pay more unless he could have visitation. He didn't think my mom would go for it and he could then get away with not paying more, but she asked me and I thought it would be ok (I was pretty much just curious to see what he looked like), much to his surprise. So, he really did have selfish reasons for never meeting me and then for seeing me when he did finally ask for visitation.
Anyway, in this case, I don't think that the biological father should see the kids unless they really want to see him (because speaking from experience, it can be very hard and confusing emotionally to suddenly have a parent thrust upon you), but I do think he should provide financial support and the man who is not the father should not have to pay for someone else's mistake.
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