I have no idea of your personal situation but I wanted to make a general comment about fathers.
A lot of the time Fathers that kind of vanish from a child's life do it because they can't deal with the emotional pain the ex-wife gives him. Often the emotional pain and not-so-subtle slights (or the fact that women can make visitation unpleasant) have the father dissapearing for longer lengths of time.
Othertimes it can take years of being a second class citizen to your own children to make a Father stop coming around.
It doesn't take much to get the out of sight out of mind perspective. Plus the longer you stay away the more unpleasant the idea of going back.
Plus, the child will often not see the little day to day conflicts that exist between ex's, who is going to admit them? Often time the Ex's circle isn't even aware of them.
Just a different perspective.
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Originally posted by DWAlphaGam
Very true...I had limited contact with my biological father (didn't meet him until I was 12 and haven't seen him in years) but he still had to pay child support for me. Just because he chose not to be in my life doesn't mean that he is not responsible for me being here.
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