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Originally posted by James
Alum initiation still doesn't do what she seems to want it to, which is to provide her with the same social/friendship opportunities that an undergrad has a right to expect. Its half a loaf.
This is not a college graduate that wants to belatedly fill an unrequited desire to join a sorority. This is a 19 year old sophomore.
Obviously she may be able to work around the different status but it still has to be worked around.
As an active sister this would all be a given and put her on equal footing with the other girls in her age group.
I still believe that a lot of you are getting hung up on the word marriage without thinking about the actual behavior pattern that is going to mean to a 19 year old.
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James---Bottom line is that she's going to have to tell them (maybe not in the first round, but at least by the second or third) that she is married because some sororities have rules in place that bar regular collegiate initiation to married women. I think you're getting hung up on the term "alumna" in "alumna initiation." If she is dropped by every house during recruitment because she is married (which may happen because of the rules in place), at least she can get to know them and possibly pursue joining in a COB-type situation and then take alumna status upon initiation, if anyone is willing to do that. (I'm not sure if that makes sense because I've never encountered this situation and I have no idea how things work at this particular school, and I'm not an expert in NPC rules.) Even if she is an alumna initiate, so to speak, she is still at the campus and will be able to interact with the chapter on a regular basis. It will be the same as taking alumna status as an undergrad. She probably will not be able to hold an office in the chapter and she will definitely not live in the house if they have one, but she can go to all of the events and meetings and have basically the same experience.
Anyway, scprettygirl, I say go for it after doing some research about the organizations on campus and finding out their rules for members who are married. If you're worried about rules that say new members have to live at the house, I wouldn't worry about it because of your situation; I mean, they probably wouldn't make someone who is a commuter student live in the house, so I would imagine that you would fall under the same rules.