[James]

Alum initiation still doesn't do what she seems to want it to, which is to provide her with the same social/friendship opportunities that an undergrad has a right to expect. Its half a loaf.

This is not a college graduate that wants to belatedly fill an unrequited desire to join a sorority. This is a 19 year old sophomore.

Obviously she may be able to work around the different status but it still has to be worked around.

As an active sister this would all be a given and put her on equal footing with the other girls in her age group.

I still believe that a lot of you are getting hung up on the word marriage without thinking about the actual behavior pattern that is going to mean to a 19 year old.