[AOIIBrandi]

Time for my $.02...

James, you are not totally off base, and normally I do tell women to keep certain things to themselves, but this is just not one of them.

I would say that bringing it up first round is probably not a good idea. You should let the women get to know you and want to invite you back on your merits. They will probably not ask because Boys being one of the B's is generally off limits, but don't lie if they do ask (I'm assuming they will see your ring). I would say it is definitely something you will want to discuss as you get into the later rounds (with the sorority(ies) that you think you may be asked to join)

There are some things you will also need to think about, and things the sororities will likely ask. Is your husband in school also? Is he planning on rushing as well? Is he 100% for you doing this? Will he understand the time constraints that will be added? Is he going to be OK with you going to mixers without him? Is he going to want to accompany you to date nights, formals...? Do you have children?

You will also need to find out if the orgabiztion(s) you are interested in allow married women to join as collegiates. When I pledged my organization had the rule that married women could not join as collegiates (we had a girl that was married but didn't find out til after she pledged), but I believe that has since been changed.