On behalf of women everywhere Billy, if you are genuinely a nice guy (and you are), DON'T TRY TO BE AN A$$. There are enough genuine a$$es out there that there is no place in this world for super nice guys who wish they were a$$es.
Think of it this way, if you try to be an A$$, and a particular house thinks 'wow, this a$$ is our kinda guy!' and then you get in, you'll be a part of a house that values a$$es.
You seem like a really nice and genuine person. Do not, I repeat DO NOT compromise who and what you are to fit a mold that you are too good for. Would you rather be surrounded by men who value negative behaviour, or men who are nice and sincere, like yourself?
Think about it
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Leslie