[MinnieM]

Yes, I had planned to find friends who had been in these sororities and ask them if they would meet with her. I should have phrased that differently. And I am having a conversation with her over Thanksgiving to make sure that she would want to be at the other school even if she isn't in a sorority. Not a conversation I want to have over text or the phone so I'm waiting.

I came on here to see if I could get advice for her from those who had been through a recruitment at a more competitive school so I could help her see where she may be at a disadvantage. There are other threads that I've read that will help - keeping an open mind, etc. I just want her to be realistic. She is a first semester freshman right now and I don't know that she realizes how competitive it is.

I haven't really shared any opinions so not sure where that came from, just some questions.

Sorry to have bothered you all.