[Alpha O]

I understand. I think it was smart of you to try to move on and pursue your other activities. From what I have seen, there are definitely many ways to get experiences similar to those of being a sorority member on most college campuses--for example, joining a sports team or an a cappella group.

It's also very considerate that you did not want to take the spotlight away from your friend's happiness. I think that you can definitely approach the topic with her and not make it seem as if you are jealous and not happy for her. Perhaps the easiest way is just to tell her that you're thinking about going through recruitment again and see where the conversation goes from there.

Personally, I did not go through formal recruitment, but once I saw what I was missing, I talked to my friends about my interest in Greek life and my decision to pursue sorority recruitment in the future. That was how my friends knew that I was interested, and they made sure to invite me to their informal recruitment events the following semester.

Definitely don't be shy about approaching your friend about your interest in sororities. She may have some pull within her chapter (though, like a PP has said, no individual member will have much pull), and may be able to give you some helpful advice and/or introduce you to other sorority women so that you can start building connections if you do decide to go through recruitment again.

If you are seriously thinking about going through recruitment again, take an honest look back at what went wrong last time. Do you have good grades? Are you involved in activities around campus? Do you need to work on your conversation skills? Did you present yourself well? etc.

Whatever happens, always remember that you are a person of worth and that there are so many possibilities ahead of you and infinite ways to have a fulfilling college experience.