[Kevin]

The Facebook thing is silly. It's fine to give them access to whatever on there. Just conduct your private business on more private forms of social media. The actives in my chapter barely use FB anymore--at least until they have kids, then it's all nonstop baby pictures (to be fair, that pretty much sums up what I'm posting these days).

Part of adulting is separating from the parents, but it is up to you how that is done. I don't agree about cleaning out the account. I might give that advice to a divorce client, but it would seem in all of this, you value your relationship with your parents but want more independence.

If you want that independence, you'd best be ready for it. Maybe take your mother out for lunch somewhere and have that conversation which starts something like "I am now ___ years old and I appreciate what you have to done to get me where I am. I understand how much you and my father have sacrificed so I can be where I am today, but I want to work towards independence, so let's talk about how that happens..."