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For Blazercheer-
Maybe Carnation has told you the story, but there are others on GC who may be in the same boat so I'll post it.
My niece went to A&M. She was Valedictorian, Captain of our HS Dance line, Prom Queen, Homecoming Queen and Belle. She had it ALL. She was NOT a legacy to anything on campus.
She hit it off with another girl who was like a mirror image and they became "rush" buddies. After round one, they both felt very confident and were considering whose invitations they would accept. When they received their invites, her friend was invited to all the parties. My niece didn't need to make any cuts. She attended the next round and though a bit down, decided to keep an open mind. Her rush buddy was bubbling over with excitement
and they even talked about the ONE house they had in common.
I get fuzzy around here, but evey night it was phone calls and crying, so lets jump to picking up the invitations for pref. My niece had 1. The other girl had her top picks. After the parties, my niece did not sign her card. Her friend became a Theta. My sister called, my niece called, my OTHER niece called...it was nothing but tears around our house for about a week.
Let's fast forward. She became active in lots of organizations and continued to meet the girls in various sororities. She and her rush buddy became best friends and so, as a SOPH at A&M, she went through again. This time it was different. She ended up in the same house as her friend and was where she wanted to be all along. She had NO IDEA why she was cut as a Freshman, she had her recs, and obviously a great resume' she was polished, very pretty... What she didn't have was someone on the inside to root for her. Meeting the members of the sororities in a casual way made all the difference.
When my daughter went through we (niece and I) talked every night and she advised me to tell her not to take anything that happens personally and to only sign your card if you are certain. One year makes a big difference and what was so important today, most likely will be far less significant when you look back-IF you look back.
JAM
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