[Sciencewoman]

Much good advice has been given...I agree that word will have gotten out because people know people and dropping right before initiation is pretty unusual and there will be hurt feelings, anger, etc. I hope you returned any gifts your big gave you and parted on good terms with your previous sorority.

In this situation, hair, make-up, clothes, freshman/sophomore status and even conversation will matter less -- members who know of the situation will be focused on whether they can trust your commitment, and whether you are someone who will make friends...or create drama.

If you want to join a sorority to make friends, be a friend, and contribute to something larger than yourself, then give it another try.