[AnchorAlumna]

Re: the confirmation postcard.
This was done by a mom and daughter team a couple of years ago for recruitment at the University of Alabama.

We have a highly organized Facebook group that the UA moms formed at that time, and it is a HUGE help to PNM mothers, especially those who are not Greek, or are unfamiliar with how important recs are in the South, and especially at UA. I wish UA Panhellenic would help monitor it, but they don't. We have been able to hold hands, show people where to look for additional info (yes, GreekChat is one of the places we recommend, with a warning of "Read first, comment after you read EVERYTHING), and quickly answer questions.
Frankly, I'm sure a lot of girls, through their moms (we don't allow students on the page) have been encouraged to find recs and have done so. We you have 2600 girls coming through recruitment, you could have a team of 20 working 24/7 to get recs on these girls and still not cover everybody.
That mother is still active and posts her suggestion every year.
While I thought at first that it was a little rude, the mothers and daughter really like getting that postcard. Sometimes they get an e-mailed acknowledgement, but often they get nothing. Since it helps ease their minds, I have no problem with it.

I figure if you don't want to use it, dump it.