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Well, I can give you my story....it was heartbreaking, but I ended up where I belonged. Can I ask why she dropped out? You can PM if you want to in private, but at the same time I don't want to invade anyone's privacy! I also was a rho chi, so I know it is very hard for girls to drop while all their friends are rushing/joining a new org. alot of times they feel left behind.
anywhoo, here's my story:
i am from the north and went to a school in the south and never really planned on rushing. However, my roomate at the time was a southern belle from charlotte and she convinced me that i should give it a try. plus, for such a small school elon's greek system is huge with almost 50% of the student body are greek by spring. and we have deferred rush. the chapters are also so large that noone does COB.
well, i started hanging out with girls on my hall, and one of them's sister was the president of XYZ. I got to know her and lots of members of XYZ. A lot of them told me I would be an XYZ, or that I would be a great XYZ and they couldn't wait for me to become a sister. (a little dirty rushing, ya think?). Anyway, I went to all 7 parties first round and had a great time at all of them. However, I felt really special went I went to XYZ's house. Lots of the sister's said hi to me, and they knew my name and were really great. I honestly thought that these people were my friends. When the party ended a few of them even came up and gave me hugs! However, the next day I recieved my invites back and I couldn't belive that XYZ was the only one to drop me! I was devestated. I couldn't believe that these girls had faked it and lied for almost a full semester! I wanted to drop out really badly! But my rho chi and a my roomate convinced me to at least go to second round and give everyone else a shot.
So thats what I did. I tried to clear my head and let it go that these girls had pretended to be my friend and i got the "well i'll show them" attitude. The rest of my experience was great, and I actually ended up in the place that i never really thought about. But it is/was the best place for me!
the moral of my story being, this is a personal decision. Going in with all your hopes of ending up in one place isn't always a good idea. There are wonderful aspects about every org., and wonderful people in all of them all over the country and some all over the world. They wouldn't have lasted a hundred years if they didn't!
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