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Leslie,
If your friend verbally accepted the bid from XYZ, then got a call from Gamma Phi Beta (who she truly wanted), would she have been able to "get out of" being in XYZ, since she didn't actually sign a bid card yet?
If these girls deceived you into thinking that there was no way that more bids were forthcoming, then a formal complaint might have been the way to go. Did your friend have to wait a year, but did she get Gamma Phi in the end? Please let us know.[/B]
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In this situation, snap bids can be accepted verbally, without actually signing a bid card. It's stupid. Verbal acceptance is binding. The girls at Gamma Phi were great and put in a complaint to Panhell at our school. Originally, Panhell said 'Tough. She accepted XYZ's bid. If she's that hell bent on joining Gamma Phi, she'll be willing to wait a year." Nice huh? It was all the more difficult because the Panhell president was in our house, and she had also mislead my friend into thinking she would not be called (she did not know my friend wanted Gamma Phi so I don't think it was personal). It caused a big controversy, but my friend decided that in the end, she didn't mind being in XYZ and that fighting what happened would mean XYZ would find out she didn't want them as badly, and if she lost, it would be difficult for her to be accepted at XYZ. So she gave up. She became a member of XYZ, not Gamma Phi. I was upset as were all the girls in my house who were trying to fight for her. But as I said, some girls just want to be in a sorority.
Leslie