Are we being bad friends??
I thinkwe are being bad friends if we continue to let the people around us "eat themselves to death".
But James, have you ever tried to talk to a person who seemed to be overweight and you wanted to help? I would venture to assume that the majority of overweight people are depressed about their weight and might very well be overly sensitive. If you were to speak to them about their weight they might take that as you calling them fat. Not to say that they are, but sometimes you can be the most tactful person and things can get blown way out of proportion.
One cannot help someone who doesn't want to be helped. Instead of speaking to them directly you might approch them subtly. If you were to go out dinner with an overweight friend instead of taking them to a bar and grill where most of the food is high in fat, adn saying to them, should you be eating that burger, you should be eating salad, while everyone one around them is eating that burger. Take them to a vegetarian restaurant or a health food restaurant, where the food choices are healthier, and eat healthy with them instead of telling them what they should and shouldn't eat.
When fraternities or sororities have dinners, the house should make sure that there are plenty of healthy choices available, or make sure all the food is healthy.
There is no easy way to let an overweight friend or even underweight friend for that matter, know that you are concerned for their health
I don't know, maybe I just rambled on here. I thinkwe just need to find out how we can be sensitive to our friends that might have eating problems so we can help them instead of making them feel more isolated.
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