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Originally Posted by infj1013
Hi!
I'm a transfer student (freshman, second semester) and I recently arrived and went through formal sorority recruitment. Because I wasn't here last semester, I don't know any of the girls (actives nor new members), but the reputation of the chapter that I have joined is that they are big partiers.
I...am not. At all.
It's not at all that I have a problem with drinking. I just don't want to get all dressed and made up to go sweat and drink crappy fraternity booze in order to feel included. I'm not trying to judge, either. What people do is their own business. I'm just absolutely terrified that I won't find anyone like me even when sober, and I don't want to have to go out to feel like I fit in. I feel like I've joined the wrong chapter.
Does anyone (active or alum) have any advice? We can't have meals at the house until we're initiated, so that's not really a way that I can meet people, either. 
Please help! I don't want to drop, but I don't want to pay to hang around the edges of everyone for three years either! |
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Originally Posted by 33girl
Well, guess what, you kind of are.
No one in their right mind thinks that fraternity parties are like going to tea with the Queen. But they can be really fun. Even if you're sober.
Crank the stick out and just go to a party or two and have fun with it. Drinking or not, you will never have fun if you act like you're above people.
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Yes, they can - unless you hate crowds and loud noises.
I hated fraternity parties. I occasionally went - that's what sisters do; they do things for one another that might not be their first choice. Each reinforced to me that it just was not my thing.
You don't have to go to every party, nor even most of them. You aren't acting like you're above people if you choose not to do things you don't enjoy. But no fair complaining without offering alternatives, either. Rather go bowling? To a climbing wall? Hiking? Touring historical sites? Propose them.
Don't have study nights? Propose one - perhaps an hour and a half or so of solid, quiet studying, followed by an hour of chatter and hijinks.