Didn't you just post about this guy lol?
Lets seperate the feelings for a second and look at the assumption.
1.
You are saying:
"If he cares about this relationship and loves me as much as I love him shouldn't he want to spend as much time with me as possible!??!"
Well you answered yourself in your question. If he doesn't spend as much time with you as possible he must not love you as much as you love him.
The question is: Can you accept that? If you can you need to just enjoy the relationship. If not leave him.
Another alternate reason is that he doesn't express his feelings in the same way you do. Wanting to be together all the time or at least most of the time.
However, you obviously need a person to want to do that, or you will be unhappy. So this is just as bad for you.
From your posts its probably both things. You are more into him than he is into you, and he likes to hang out with his friends.
You are not going to change him and to work at changing him is unhealthy and unrealistic.
But you do have the right and ability to go seek another guy that will meet your needs . . . there are many out there . . . go shake the boy tree and one will fall out.
So close your eyes and imagine yourself feeling this upset most days of the week for the next few years, or until he finds someone else and breaks up with you.
If you can deal, stop railing against it because you will only make yourself miserable, and enjoy what you can. If you can't deal make a move as quick as possible.
Remember the best revenge is to live well and be happy.
Quote:
Originally posted by psusensei
my boyfriend has blatantly told me numerous times that his friends come before me. i am trying to accept this, and understand why, but I cannot. we have been together for almost 7 months, and i just cant figure why he would much choose spending time with the people he sees every single day over one night a week with ME! He has even told me that when he comes to visit me (we go to different schools) he is going to hang out with his friends who go to my school because my group of friends and his group of friends don't "click", and it would be awkward for us to hang out together. I don't understand this! If he cares about this relationship and loves me as much as I love him shouldn't he want to spend as much time with me as possible!??!
GUYS---what is going on here?
|