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I'm not going to defend the guy, but maybe you should try to look at it from a different angle.
You two are young, and most likely not inordinately 'serious' due to that fact. He's known his friends for a long time, most likely, and those are extremely well-established relationships.
One bottom line: They were there first, and they'll be there last as well.
Guys don't look at every relationship as being 'permanent' - it's pragmatic to think that most of your relationships at this point in your life will not end in marriage. When you break up, he'll still have his friends - you don't 'break up' from your buddies. When he says his friends come first, maybe this is what he's referring to; they quite literally came first. If you expect to be his number-one priority, this obviously will not work for you - but that might be how he is. Just because you're not his number one priority, this doesn't mean you can't have a great relationship - you'll just have to adjust to the situation.
You've "been together" for 7 months, but he and his buddies have "been together" for 9 years . . . (ok I made that up, but can you see the point?)
With the limited amount of information you give us here, I don't think it's right or wrong to bash the guy - but maybe this can provide some insight for you.
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