Hi juniorgrrl:
I just want to say that I think what was done to you royally sucks. I want so badly to make those girls (you never did say what house it was, did you? What a lady you are!) see that what they did to you was not only cruel, but against Panhellenic rush rules.
Someone wrote in an earlier post that you might have gotten caught in an "undertow"; that is when 1/2 the house loves you, and the other 1/2 of the house doesn't love you, and therefore you don't move up anyone's list. I can understand if that's what happened to you; it does happen, but after all of the crap they've put you though, I'd think they would owe you an explanation.
I have been through Rush as a rushee, an active, a Rush chair, and a Rush advisor at 2 different campuses--that's 3 different chapters of the same sorority, and at every chapter the girls were VERY careful (with constant prodding from me to boot) about NOT leading girls on who were going to be cut eventually. And I think most sororites are mindful of this--of not leading girls on. So I just can't understand what is going in that chapter.
You're right to think that calling the house phone of the chapter in question won't do any good. But calling Panhellenic and/or calling that chapter's advisory board and/or calling that chapter's national Membership Chairperson would really do some good. As an advisor, even though it would hurt me to hear that my actives had done such a thing to rushee, I would want to know about it, because it could really open up some dialogue for the chapter, and help the chapter to learn the meanings and consequences behind their actions.
I've held my tongue for a while on this subject, and (as you can see), I just can't hold it anymore! I urge you to let the appropriate people know what happened to you; even anonymously, since you can help others to avoid the nastiness you've had to endure. And a large Greek system like LSU really needs this kind of check-up every once in a while. And maybe it will make you feel better, in the end?
Also, I would encourage you to consider Alumn Initiation into a sorority. Check out threads on this topic in the "Alumni" bulletin board here on Greek Chat. I dont' know you from Adam, but you seem like a really super girl, with a lot to offer a chapter; even an alumna chapter (they're more fun than you think!!!!!)
Also, I hope the LSAT went well, and that this whole Rush fiasco didn't mess up your concentration.
Best of luck to you, and I know you will go far, because you are such a smart cookie!!!
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Oh, Kappa Kappa Kappa Gamma,
I'm so happy that I am a
Kappa Kappa Kappa Gamma,
Nobody knows . . . how
happy I am!
[This message has been edited by imsohappythatiama (edited February 16, 2001).]
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