As a veteran of MULTIPLE open bid parties, we did not call a woman back over and over unless we were very interested in her and planned to give her a bid...multiple invites were usually to quell whatever doubts she might have had about joining and keep her interest up.
Something that may have happened is that there is some kind of internal chapter conflict - half the girls wanted to bid you, half didn't, and you got stuck in the undertow. If that is the case, then dammit, they should call you back and give you a REAL explanation, not this cut once cut again business. It sounds like they are doing things in a very unorganized way and are not unified.
If you feel close enough to your friend who is a member, I would go to her and ask her. Tell her you realize she can't violate the secrecy of voting sessions, but you were confused by the sorority's actions. If I was in that situation and a rushee confronted me, I would be honest.
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