dzsaigirl,
I think this is a great topic! Looking back, I know that I was always very excited to meet alums who came to assist my chapter and, currently, I feel that the chapter I assist has collegians who feel much the same way. They are very thankful for alumnae support, and quite vocal about it.
However, they used to be hesitant about asking for help -- the occasional flowers at Rush time or snacks during a work week was about it. Things have changed considerably since we made the Alumnae Relations chairmanship an executive board position, though. Now, the alumnae are getting invitations to events on a regular basis, and the girls on the executive board are starting to get a lot more comfortable asking directly for help when they need something. I think all they needed was a little reminder that we were around if they needed us, and that they shouldn't feel as if they were "imposing" by asking for help.
As an active alumna, the bottom line for me is this: As long as I know that my presence is welcome and appreciated, then I will continue to work with the collegians.
It sounds as if the collegiate chapter in your area may need a little reminder that alumnae are there to help, and that they should take you up on your very generous offer. Perhaps you could contact the chapter's CCD and get involved that way? Also, have you gotten a list from National of the alumnae living in your area? That's a great way to get a new alumnae chapter off the ground. If you need any assistance, please feel free to PM me. Good luck!!
DZLAM,
dzrose93