Hey Juniorgrrl!
I too sympathize with your rush experience. I believe that I have said on this board before that the rush process is a little 'different' to me (Being that I am in a BGLO, and we typically have a different way of going about intake), and the shuffle you have gone through is one of the things that probably confuses me about the process. Anyhoooo, I will say that I think you are putting a little too much analysis into your decision making process about going to this event(s). Like you stated in your original post, 'you do not want to miss a potential opportunity', so don't! When I was asking 1,000 questions about becoming a member of the sorority I am in now, members told me "Don't anticipate, participate!" I am now going to pass that basic advice onto you.
If something comes out of it like a bid, it will be a wonderful addition to your level of expectation if you go with an open mind. You will think that you made the right decision by going, because if you had not gone, you would not have known that you were going to be chosen to rush XYZ, and become a member! If you do not get chosen to rush, but you stick to the 'keep an open-mind plan',
you may come out of it with the great experience of having an awesome time, developing new and lasting friendships, and peace of mind, because at least you went. Now, if you do not go, none of the above is possible, because, well....you did not go. You are a great student with great extracurricular activities, and you would probably be a great addition to XYZ, however, all the things I just said about you still apply even if they do not decide to extend you a bid. You will at least know that you tried 'til the end, and that is the best you can do!
Now, if you do want to lament the situation, I would not go pokin' around nationals/regionals too much. Get the basic info you think you need, and leave it at that. If the people in the house are actually bending the rules to get you in, you don't want it to get back to them that you were asking alot of questions to "higher-ups" about the process. They would probably not like that too much, especially if you could ask them the same questions. Maybe you can find some of these things out over the duration of the night(s). I would find out about the cut once, cut always rule if you must, but If I were you, I would stick to the don't anticipate...participate suggestion at the top of this post. You do not want to be the person that regionals/nationals forces the chapter to extend a bid to because of some controversy...they will probably take it out on you. ***Again I will stay away from that aspect of it, because again, I do not know much about rush.*** So just go!
Good luck, and I hope everything works out well...remember you cannot win if you don't play!
soror6
Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc
Spring '91
