Dear juniorgrrl:
Here's what I think--if I were you, I do one (or several) of the following:
1) Call the sorority's national HQ, and tell them your situation. Ask if they have a "cut once, cut always" rule, and if that rule is different for Formal and Informal Rush. (HQ may or may not give you the answers you need, but it is worth a try, if you ask me.)
2) Call your local Panhell office, and ask them the same questions.
3) Do you know anyone in the house that called to inform you of activities? If so, call that girl, and ask her the same questions as in #1. If you don't know anyone in that house, call the house phone and ask to speak to the Rush chair. Explain your history (avoid sounding like "poor me") and then ask her the questions I wrote out in #1.
This should at least give you some information to go on, you know?
Also, if you find out from any source that there is a hard-and-fast cut-once, cut-always rule for that sorority, then you need to report what they have done (asking you to Rush activities) as a Rush infraction to your local Panhellic Authority. Chapters are NOT allowed to ask girls to their houses, knowing that under their standing rules they must cut them. That is called Dirty Rushing, and Panhell will have to take action to stop the chapter from such a rush infraction.
I wish you all the best of luck, and I am so sorry for all of the crap that you have been put through. If there is anything I can do to further help you, don't hesitate to contact me.
(And if the chapter that called you happens to be KKG, let me know, and I will get you some answers about what is going on.)
Please keep us posted!
Panhellenically,
imsohappythatiama
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Oh, Kappa Kappa Kappa Gamma,
I'm so happy that I am a
Kappa Kappa Kappa Gamma,
Nobody knows . . . how
happy I am!
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