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Swamp Thang, I don't even want you answer (as you shouldn't) because you would be putting your friend's business out. However, the question is did your friend have a reason for not wanting to tell the man about the baby? I'm sure she did. And regardless of how she tries to downplay it, it had to be something serious. No man's genes are that good that HE had to be the one to impregnate her. Since she didn't tell him, it couldn't have been to trap him or get his money. Maybe your friend chose not to have this man a part of her baby's life for something that she deemed seroius enough not tell him about it. Your friend was strong and chose to raise her baby without the help of the father. However, some women don't want to do that. That's why they have the right to an abortion.
Secondly, I hear that some of you feel the need to "beat" a woman for having an abortion or not informing you of a child. Well, go right ahead because 1) you'll wind up in jail, 2) it won't bring your baby back, 3) you'll still have missed out on naming the baby, first steps, and all that other stuff you named, and 4) nothing will be different. You'll probably be worse off than when you found out. That approach won't solve anything.
Why is it that you all are blaiming women for all that goes wrong? If men claim that hey don't go around and have random partners, etc., then why not keep up with it? If you are only having sex with women that "know the rules" or that you care about, how can you let them out of your life for "8-12 years" without checking in on them? It becomes obvious after 5 or 6 months if you have an "issue" to discuss.
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