Hey, Angel!
I too think that twinstars is a bit too harsh. I do think that each campus is a bit different, and the way each house goes about their bid/recruitment process is different based on capacity, size of greek life, and other factors at that particular school. Take some time, and check that out. As a member of a BGLO, the entire rush process is a little foreign to me, but I will tell you this....I truly commend you for sticking to your guns and not accepting the bid for a 'consolation' house. Since being in a GLO is a serious sisterhood and should be a lifetime commitment, You should wait for the organization(s) that you have decided would be the best match for you. That type of dedication should overshadow the fact that you are a sophomore-which to me is not that big of an issue. I have always wanted potential members for my organization to be people that are determined, dedicated, and ready to accept the responsibility of being a lifetime member of Delta Sigma Theta, not just a person who wants to be greek because everyone else is doing it at the time. Believe me, the level of seriousness (or lack therof) shows. That should be more of a deciding factor than how old you are! As far as the financial situation goes, any organization that has the opportunity to choose between a Freshman who is not up to the work yet, but will pay her (financial) dues, and a Sophomore who has made a mature decision, is a bit more responsible and pays her dues too would need to pick the Sophomore (in my opinion)!
Don't second guess your decision, I think you did the right thing by not accepting the bid to a house that you did not want to be in. That is a lifelong decision, so you should hold out for the house you think is right for you! You seem to be a very mature person that made a very mature decision. In the long run, I am sure you will be respected and rewarded with a bid for the house you desire because the girls in the GLO you are interested in will probably share your beliefs and maturity about their organization and realize what a great asset you would be as a rushee of their sisterhood! Lots of luck to you, angel... Keep your head up and be proud of yourself for being true to you FIRST! Everything else will fall into place
LOL,
Soror6
Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc.
Spring '91
