Hi Angel--
This is a sad situation--grade changes that would have made a difference are always hard to swallow.
But the good news is that, at least in my opinion, "not getting in" the first year of Rush won't be anything that will be held against you should you decide to rush next year.
I went to a university with a VERY large Greek life--one of the largest in the country, and during my first year of rush, I got "cross-cut" which is this ridiculous thing that happens to some girls, and is just a fluke. So I didn't get a bid anywhere, even though I went to my top 2 houses of pref night. Go figure.
Like you, all of my friends had pledged various houses, and I felt sad, since I was kind of left behind, and I didn't know what would happen if I went through Rush again the following year--another major disappointment?
Well, long story (sort of) short, I did go through again the next year, and let me tell you that it was a GREAT experience! I really had much more to talk about with the actives, and felt that I was really making informed decisions about my regrets list. I ended up pledging (and joining) the house I had pref'd my first year--KKG. In no way did they (or any other house I visited) hold my freshman year Rush experience against me!
Here's the lowdown: everyone in every house knows that Rush sucks, and that sometimes crappy things happen to nice girls during Rush. So don't sweat it. And for goodness sakes, when you go through Rush next year, don't tell your first-year-rush-story in detail to every active who rushes you. If asked, just say that it didn't work out, and you wanted to take a year to get adjusted to college before you dedicated yourself to any one organization. Then let them know that you now feel ready to be a highly active member of X house.
Best of luck to you, Angel! I hope my story will give you hope! And girl, take this next year to get those grades up! That will serve you well, both in Rush, and long after--when you have to go out and get a job, or get into grad school believe me!
And I'm glad to hear that you liked KKG a lot--if I can give you any more KKG information, or you have any questions about Kappa on a national level, don't hesistate to contact me!
Best of luck to you! Keep us posted.
Panhellenically,
imsohappythatiama
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Oh, Kappa Kappa Kappa Gamma,
I'm so happy that I am a
Kappa Kappa Kappa Gamma,
Nobody knows . . . how
happy I am!
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