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Warning: this is going to upset people. So be it. I am speaking my truth.
What the issue is: all the negative hate and talk towards any chapter eventually results in the closing of said chapter. And guess what happens? Another chapter becomes the target. That one closes. It's a domino effect. The word gets out that the campus is toxic and non-Panhellenic. No one wants to expand there and have that experience repeated ad nauseum. The system limps along until something happens that results in either (a) massive change or (b) closure. Question:how elite can a chapter be when it has 300-400+ members? Seriously? Is that what the "top tier" wants? What does it say when we trash each other? Does that make you feel better? It makes me feel small and petty.
IMO the "top chapters" at Ole Miss, and other similar campuses, are fueled by alumnae and wanna-bes who are so into social status that they cannot see past their noses. They have no concept of the meaning of Panhellenic spirit and they often ignore their own sorority values as a result. They are hanging on to the glory of days gone by. They insist on perpetuating decades-old myths. Didn't we just see it here in the UT thread with that non-Greek mom? Yes, we did.
Frankly I don't give a rat's ass about tiers. I simply don't care, they don't mean zip to me. If you've been here long enough you know that about me. And I just shrug and shake my head at those who do. I'm comfortable in my own skin and I know my place in the food chain. So, whatever, ladies, whatever. Yes I am not from the South and so what? I know compassion and kindness (and the lack thereof) when I see it. So, morally I'll uphold the standard of love (and love the unloveable although my teeth hurt from clenching), and socially I'll do my best to be the widest influence for good (which means I'll not give up being Panhellenic, I will embrace all women who are Greek, and I mean all of you). Intellectually, the highest scholarship tells me that calling a mean girl "nice" and "classy" is an absurd fallacy. The emperor has no clothes.
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"One of the painful things about our time is that those who feel certainty are stupid, and those with any imagination and understanding are filled with doubt and indecision." Bertrand Russell, The Triumph of Stupidity
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