[kddani]

Wow, what a tough position to be in if it's true that your nationals may pull your charter.
If your nationals is this serious, are they sending people to aid you?

We had some rush trouble, no where near what you're going through, and we had one of our national directors of collegian membership come stay with us for a few days. She was incredibly uplifting and motivating and that made a huge difference. We also had chapter consultants and alumnae help.

I guess a lot of what you can do depends on the culture of your campus and the greek life there. I imagine it's somewhat like my school was (U of Pittsburgh), fairly casual.

You don't even necessarily have to have specific events to COB people. Invite them along on everyday activities. Eating lunch together, just hanging out in your suite or house if you have one. Seeing the sisters for what they actually are, not the show that everyone puts on for rush. I am a firm believer that you are more likely to find quality girls through COB than formal rush. And we've found COBers to have better retention rates.

Another thing you can do, probably wouldn't be best to tell your nationals.... invite them when you go out partying, etc. Don't even necessarily let them know that you're "rushing" them. Just let them see what cool girls you are and that you can have fun with each other, instead of making it this big pressured thing that you're trying to convince them to join. Let them make the decision on their own. Let them ask you how they can join!

There are so many different approaches to this, feel free to PM me if you want.