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I would suggest that even though you feel really bad about not inviting her back, I think it would be worse to keep her till pref, which would be leading her on, and then not extending her a bid. It is going to be hard for both of you when she gets dropped right away bt think how much worse she will feel in the long run if you lead her on for a couple of days and then just say "peace out". Maybe see if you can convince your sisters to keep her for one day this would at least give her a second chance to make an impression with your sisters, but it would also not be stringing your friend along.
My chapter actually had a situation like this with one girl in our houses having a friend go through rush but we could all tell she would have felt very awkward in our house. Unfortunatly the girl who was in our house was on our rush comm. so she kept inviting the girl back through house tours day(at my school house tours is the day before pref). we finally had to sit the girl in the house down and explain to her that just because she loves the girl doesn;t mean we all feel the same way. don't get me wrong the girl who was rushing was a wonderful girl she just would not have fit in our house. Well by keeping this girl through house tours she really thought we wanted her, and so when she did not get inivited back to pref she was so sad and shocked she dropped out of rush. so if the girls in your house do nto feel liek she would belong in phi mu then don't make her feel like she is gaurenteed a spot. Maybe een before rush talk o her and tell her that she should go into rush with an open mind because a differnet house could be perfect for her. I think it is important to go through rush with an open mind so just try andtell her that. This way if she doesn't get phi mu she will not feel like dropping out. I hope that helped
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