Prettygyrl:
I have been reading many of your posts and you sure have a lot to say about greek life and how you are going to be if you become greek. I find it very interesting that you are so sure of how it will be. As is the name of this topic, I have become Curious to know which school you attend. Anyhow, I too had been told the same thing about "Every friend is not your Soror and every Soror is not your friend"; however, I took that as one Sorors words to me and digested them for myself and came away with my own meaning. (I think this is important in being an independent thinker). Since I am a great fan of logic, here is my argument. I agree with the first part of the statement that not every friend will be my Soror, for example my husband will never be my Soror just as none of my male friends will be, same goes for my mother or any childhood friends I have who joined other organizations (you get my point). However the second statement is not so clearcut in its interpretation. "Every Soror is not my friend" can be a true fact because I do not know all of my Sorors; therefore, they cannot all be my friends. Of course, this leads to a discussion about friendship that I will not go into. However, since you used this quote as an answer to my question of having "white" Sorors, I know that you did not interpret this statement quite so literally. Therefore, let me address it the way you meant for me to address it. "Every Soror is not your Friend" is an ATTITUDE. It can be a defensive attitude or an offensive attitude. I choose to have this attitude in a defensive way. By this I mean that I do not meet a Soror and right away she is my friend. It takes time for that relationship to develop. I think this advice was given to me by my Soror because she had been disappointed by her idealism. However, I know that she did not tell me this in order to for me to discriminate against other Sorors, rather she and I both welcome the opportunity to get to know new Sorors.
It seems to me that you have chosen to adopt
this attitude in an offensive way, by this I mean determining in advance that there are some people that are not worthy of being your frined and are only your "Soror" in name or in public. Your reason for not feeling the person worthy of your friendship is because she is "white". Considering your strong anti-hazing stance, how would you feel if a Soror didn't feel you were worthy of her friendship because you were "paper".
There are some who choose to adopt this attitude toward their Sorors for a number of reasons: they are "white", they are "paper", they pledged "Alumnae Chapter", they didn't pledge at an "HBCU", they didn't pledge at "Howard", they didn't pledge in my "Region" etc....The list goes on and on.
Again, I am quite intrigued to the extent of your relationship with the members of your sorority of choice at your school. They seem to discuss a lot of things with you. One more question......do you feel the same way about all non-black people or just white people? Again, I look forward to your response.
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Originally posted by prettygyrl:
YOU ASKED HOW I WOULD FEEL IF I WAS ONLINE WITH A WHITE GIRL? THAT IS SOMETHING THAT I AM NOT WORRIED ABOUT AT MY SCHOOL. BELEIVE IT OR NOT WE ALL GET ALONG BUT WE ARE FOR THE MOST PART HAPPILY SEGREGATED! YOU ARE RIGHT ABOUT THE FACT THAT THERE ARE WHITE WOMEN IN MY SORORITY OF CHOICE! IF I MAKE IT I WILL ALWAYS REMEMBER WHAT ONE GREEK ALWAYS TOLD ME THAT IS...........EVERY FRIEND IS NOT A SOROR AND EVERY SOROR IS NOT YOUR FRIEND!!!!! OK
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