Big Crimson Guy,
Just read your post and I have to agree totally with my soror's advice. You have to go exclusively with what is in your heart - if you don't it'll haunt you for the rest of your life. I know plenty of greeks with the same sentiments, who wish they would have joined th organization they intially sought to become a member of. Don't let racial issues deter your goal either. I went to a traditionally white institution in which a Black women joined a white sorority and eventually became the first non-white president of ISC. She got all types of looks of dislike and shame from those of her own race. It's difficult to assess my school situation because I attended the most segregated public university in America. Racial relations were and are strained and those Blacks who choose to join white fraternities and sororities are to some extent chastised, but mostly just ignored because they are so-called sell-outs. It's very sad. Bottom line - if you don't have an understanding of self and know which direction you are headed, no sorority or fraternity is going to help. You need to have your identity established before you do anything. Good luck!
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