at our chapter we (the new members) host a party for the chapter. the party has to have a theme. ours was a spring theme since we were the spring 2002 class. Anyway, we decorate the living room with all things associated with our theme and make name tags for each sister. (this is a good way of getting to know everyones nams) Plus food and refreshmants of course
Anyway all the sisters who want to be bigs line up in front of all the NM's and we each take turns talking to one another. Then we all get pencils and papers and each girl (potential bigs and NM's) lists 3 people who she would want to be her big (3 people she would want to be her little) in order of your first choice , second choice, so on. After that all the actives go in a room away from us and they decide whose going to get what once they take a look at everyone's choices (you almost always get your first choice as long as the person you picked picked you as well). Then on the night of "Revelations" you find out who your big is by taking a piece of string she has put all around the house and you keep following it until it leads to your her! Mine lived at the house, so she spent a while putting that string everywhere and it took me FOREVER to get to her!