When I rushed, we had 4 days of parties, and noone was cut until it was Pref day. On the 1st day, it was called Informational Parties, where you go for 30 mins to each group to get the basic info (dues, etc). The dress listed on the schedule was "Casual". WELLL......
My roommate and I were at another meeting (we were in Band) and barely made it to the beginning of rush on time. We were both in T-shirts and shorts. When we arrived, EVERYONE else was in SUNDRESSES!!!!!
(to me, that is NOT "casual"!!!) Anyway, we went thru all 4 parties that way. Although there were no cuts that night, I could definitely tell that I was, um, "dismissed" by one of the sororities who always appeared to have the more wealthier sisters (dressed nice, new cars, etc). I pretty much got cold shouldered for the rest of the week (and wasn't invited to pref).
It all worked out though, because I really learned where I was accepted for me, faults and all. . .
AST!! (And next year they added an extra day to rush where all the PMN's met with Rho Chi's to learn all about rush BEFORE it happened. I don't think that was by accident!!!
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As far as this thread. . .I think it's a great idea. We are the ones responsible for whether or not it becomes negative. If you don't want it to be negative, don't post anything negative!!!! (And like me, you can choose not to reveal the groups that cut you, especially if you think it was for a petty reason)