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Originally posted by kddani
I dont' know if there's an official policy. I don't think it happens often.
I kind of question why someone would want to join a sorority if they had a child. I can understand why a person in general would want to be in one. But if you have a child, shouldn't there be different priorities in your life? Once you have a kid, they should be your number one priority above all. A sorority is a large time commitment.
Also if they're married or still have a relationship with their baby's father, what about mixers and such? What if the woman started hooking up with a guy? I'd feel so overwhelmingly guilty for possibly leading to the cause of a dissolve of a marriage. I understand this can happen all the time with girls cheating on their guys, but once there's a child involved it's a much bigger deal.
I'll probably get flamed for some of this, but keep in mind that it's just my personal opinion and that we're all entitled to our own opinion. And i'm only speaking on perspective from an NPC point of view. I've heard of NPHC members who have children and have had a very positive experience. So no one go flipping out, lets try to keep this a civil thread.

The part where you asked about what if she was married or still with the baby's father, I mean, I'm sure girls with boyfriend's pledge all the time. I mean, is it better to break them up? (I know what you menat though )

As far as why a single mother would pledge, well, for the same reasons as everyone else. Just because you're a parent doen't mean your life has to end. I mean, I'd break my neck and dance naked in the street for my daughter, and she will always come first. But that doesn't mean that I can't do anything else but be mommy. Our sorority is more service based, so its no big deal to take her with me to projects. She always brightens up someone's day. As far as serious or non-child events like a formal or serious meeting, of course I would leave her with Grandma. But DGP is the only activity I do, and since it encompasses service and social activities, its enough for me. I would never keep ANYONE from pledging, but I would seriously talk to her and see if she's sure she can handle kids, sorority AND school, because kids and schoiol come first, always.