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BTDT I am a first generation Greek and I was the first in my family to go away to college, instead of community. (And the first to graduate). I don't think you should drop.
You sound a little like you have a case of the freshman blues. Lots of people feel disconnected and awkward after the first thrill of being a freshman wears off. You're not at home and school isn't home yet. At least of a few of those loud, gregarious girls in your pledge class (sorry... new member class) to feel the same way. They're just going out a lot to try to make connections because that is what extraverts do. You are all adjusting. It's a normal part of freshman year (and being a pledge/new member!) to feel this way.
If you quit your sorority now, you're going to feel the same way, but you will have lost the tentative connections that you have started to make. If you drop, you'll have to start all over again with new people. It's not going to make you feel better.
I hear you saying that you want to have stronger connections with your sisters. You like your sisters, but haven't become BFFs with them yet. Wait. It takes time. You have to spend a lot of time just suiting up and showing up to become fully integrated into the group. You are doing all the right things. Those connections will form if you just give them time.
Don't worry about being the quiet one in the group. You will be much loved by your louder, extraverted sisters for your calm and steady voice. The whole group can't be crazy, party animals. Nobody wants to do that all the time. Even the crazy party animals want to stay in and study and eat ice cream and watch TV sometimes. And the quiet girls want to go out and be loud and crazy sometimes. It's nice to have sisters that you can count on to do that with, even if it's not "your thing." The best thing about being in a sorority for me is the huge diversity of awesome women it puts in my life. There are tons of women in KD, most of whom I would never have gotten to know, who are very different from me, who I have learned to love and understand. It's an experience that has greatly enriched my life.
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