[AOII Angel]

It is not unusual in the least to feel disconnected after pledging...even if you get your first choice. You are suddenly dropped into a chapter with a ton of women you don't know. Even if you really liked all the women that rushed you, that would still be a tiny fraction of the entire chapter. Most people feel a little intimidated. It's also not awful if you are a little scared of your pledge class. I remember being appalled that these loud (and what I thought were obnoxious) twins pledged with me. They annoyed me during recruitment, and when I saw them run down our hall, I cringed. I got to know them both over time and realized that my first impressions were wrong. I even ended up rooming with each of them separately when I was in med school. I love them both dearly even if they are hyper!

What makes a sisterhood is not what you see during recruitment. That's salesmanship. Sisterhood is made by long hours together doing things that make memories. If you have a real sister, you feel sisterhood because you've been together all your life and know everything about each other. If you suddenly got a new sister out of the blue, you wouldn't immediately feel that bond. It would take time. Give yourself that time. Make an effort to get involved (and I don't mean going out 3 nights a week.) Call your pledge sisters and make a lunch or coffee date. Ask the sophomore that you like to introduce you to her friends. One by one, you will make headway. If you are still opposed to joining at initiation time, drop out.