[jenidallas]

Unless you are 100% happy not being Greek, I'd encourage you to think carefully. Either way you are making a serious decision with permanent consequences.

It's normal to feel this way in your first few week as the lifelong friendships don't magically appear when you don your new letters. And most of the new freshmen are also trying on their new college selves. Reflecting on my years as a collegian as well as as an advisor, I've noticed that the "strong" personalities everyone notices (but may not mesh with) tend to be very front and center which can lead girls to believe that type is the norm. I've also noticed that there is a much larger group of women on the fring, watching those women and thinking "I'm not like that".

You mention you are an INFJ (I'm an INTJ) so I'll throw out that you are likely much more sure of your sense of self than your peers but that doesn't mean it will be that way for four years. I went through my periods of doubt about finding my comfortable home too although now I'm SO glad I never dropped.

My bet is that there are others in the chapter (and in your new member class) who are more like you. You just may not be seeing them because of the dominant personalities that have taken up your attention.