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Originally Posted by DubaiSis
And all of this doesn't speak to the issue at hand which is a girl rushing a second time after a failed first attempt at a southern school (of undetermined size or Greek strength). Official and unofficial policies don't matter. Changing the dynamic of her personal situation is what matters. If you don't change anything there is no reason to expect a different outcome. Because this is a relatively easy thing to do, and there IS value in a well-written recommendation form, belligerently saying you don't have to have them and therefore you're not going to get them speaks to me of a personality issue that likely does not mesh well with the myriad other rules, policies and practices, some mandatory, some only mandatory if you want to succeed as a sorority member in college today. I DESPERATELY want to be a sorority member, but I don't want to do any of these specific things that are required doesn't bode too well. Tell me about that first mixer she has to attend where she hates one of the guys in the house, or the work week schedule that interferes with a part time job or any of the 80 bazillion other sacrifices sorority women have to make.
If this is not a recs required campus, if she DOES send one in, then it will be looked at with greater scrutiny since there will be far fewer for them to go through. That makes it all the more reason to send in the rec since rush failed for her last time.
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Indeed. Being in a sorority requires one to be a team player, not someone who wants to come in and change the rules of the game before she even gets there. That would raise serious questions and red flags in my mind. Yes, sorority members are individuals, but individuals who are working together for the good of the entire organization. There are many, many benefits but along with those many responsibilities.