[Katmandu]

Leaving the game with cards on the table in a competitive rush is not something that is going to get a lot of positive feedback here. Speaking the truth does not equal jumping all over someone. Attending additional rounds of parties frequently changes the perception and experience considerably for PNMs--we have seen and experienced it time and time again. So who knows how she would have felt about the remaining groups?

Her focus at this point should be school and grades, and using natural opportunities of classes and activities to meet and get to know actives. In competitive schools, chapters frequently COB among friends of friends--quietly. She should let GL office know she is interested. The groups extending COB bids in the spring may well be the same ones she rejected.

And yes, "Not Feeling A Connection" in large recruitments with 70+ new member classes and 250+ chapter size is frequently, though not always, code for "They seemed weird", "They had girls of diverse sizes", "My boyfriend's fraternity doesn't exchange with them", "My Rho Chi group trash talks them".