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Originally Posted by Ag_Sis
I have already said that I want a sisterhood first and foremost, so academics are not the "main thing on my mind." I would also never bluntly ask about things like this in real life. Maybe because this is the internet so I'm being misunderstood, but I would NEVER want to portray myself as better than anyone else or make someone else feel uncomfortable, which is why I'm asking you ladies on how to politely and diplomatically pose the question so that my rusher doesn't feel uncomfortable.
Correct me if I'm wrong, but I think what a lot of you are saying is that I shouldn't worry about it. If that's the case, well, y'all are the experts, not me! I'll still go into rush with an open mind and hope that I do find that wonderful match that's best for me and trust the process. Just about a month left to go, I'm super excited!
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I don't think people are saying not to worry about your questions, necessarily, but just to be aware that you might get limited information when you ask, and that you might not have much of a choice in the end anyway.
Remember that each individual in the sorority will have a pretty good general knowledge of a lot of sorority topics, and pretty deep knowledge about a couple of topics. You may be paired with women who don't know the major makeup of the chapter, or a sophomore first-time recruiter who isn't super involved in the chapter yet, etc.
Be prepared for conversations where you find out no good information on this topic. But be able to quickly move on to other topics. If you can have several good conversations on a variety of topics, then you can more easily get away with asking another member of that chapter a similar question later on. Perhaps the first person you talk to in a chapter, you can ask her major or school activities. The next person you could outright ask your question. If both of those are no dice, then the next round you can ask a sister about their scholarship program. There's an art to conversation where you can find a lot of info without being repetitive and coming off as the single-minded PNM.
You sound like a really plan-oriented person, and situations like sorority recruitment can be frustrating because there are so many unknown variables that are totally out of your hands. Hang in there, though. Recruitment is like life - it's important to prepare as best you can, but equally as important to roll gracefully with the punches when you're not in charge.