(Edited to elaborate on some parts and for grammar)
I am sure she didn't specifically mean to single you out. Your posts have been unremarkable to me, meaning they don't stick out in my memory as being particularly off color. Unlike say a UF_Pike.
It would also be
unfortunate behavior of a person to single a person out on what is substantially a matter of personal taste in a post without at least having an on line dialogue with them through PM's or emails.
kddani's posts seem pretty reasonable so I doubt she would be guilty of this.
Here are some basic generalizations that apply to many people across many situations.
Don't take it personally and certainly don't feel constrained to modify your own behavior to meet the needs of a few people's personal taste. A personal taste that not even a majority of your sisters may feel, although a lot will give lip service to it. However, they do have the right to let their personal tastes be known.
Why would you ever allow yourself to be manipulated that way? that is a recipe for unhappiness when you are being forced by the personal comfort zones of some people to feel guilty and apologetic about being yourself.
Its a blatant example of people manipulating others into being uncomfortable so that they can be more comfortable.
As far as online conduct . . . There have been MANY times many off color threads in chit chat. I would like to direct your attention to this Thread in Chit chat:
http://greekchat.com/gcforums/showth...highlight=junk
Where basically we have a 144 responses, many by members of prominent sororities and some by alum advisors/officers, to as how our bodily fluids smell/taste during oral sex and how to influence that odor. If
that didn't get people censored, well I wouldn't worry about your posts.
But less you think that the thread had no redeeming social value I did learn from the ladies that pineapple juice is most likely to leave me with sweet smelling semen and that I should avoid asparagus as well as waste elimination
at all costs before intimate moments. LOL. I also learned that any unpleasant odor associated witht the sexual regions is probably because of what the lady ate that day . . .
No doubt some future lady will be appreciative of that thread, although I may have a hard time honestly explaining why I have a refrigerator full of pineapple juice and pineapple products or why I serve pineapple flavored cocktails . . . although on reflection I hope she doesn't realize cause its hard to emphasize that your intentions are honorable and not planned if you are tring to arrange err certain odors in advance.
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Originally posted by KDatUTC
This obviously pertains to me, right?  I do have a lot of problems with how we have to "represent our letters" at all times on the web, but when push comes to shove....I'm going to have to abide by this aren't I? And I have no prob with it.
But, I guess my question is why is talking about sex negative? I guess it was just the way I was raised...but to me, I have no problem with talking freely about it. I don't understand why it is considered "pornographic". It is a natural part of life, and I have said this before...I can't stop being who I am or how I was raised to believe.
Oh, and the "vulgar language"....can't help if I help if I have a sailors mouth when I get heated at times But, I will watch how I use it
Although, I will respect my sisters by watching what I say from now on. I didn't know all this when I joined, but it was my choice to...so I can't complain
I don't agree with it, but I guess I have no choice. I love my sorority way toooooo much to jeopardize it.
In AOT,
Ivory
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