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Originally Posted by sisterlylove
I'm worried though because girls at our workshops often get really annoyed about recruitment conversation- the ones who have done recruitment before seem to feel like the information is redundant and some people just complained about how much they hate recruitment. Any advice to change this attitude?
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Your sisters may be thinking of recruitment conversations as interviews where they ask and answer questions. Instead, they should think of themselves as the ultimate hostess whose job is to make each pnm feel like she is understood and welcomed as an individual. Thinking like that will help them go beyond the boring routine questions about major, hometown, etc (which turn off the pnms, too) and launch into each pnm's unique passion. A good conversationalist doesn't need to share that passion; she just needs to have a genuine interest and be able to draw her conversation partner out more.
So if the pnm mentions that she just got back from New Zealand last week, the sister would follow with "Seriously, you spent the summer in New Zealand? OMG, I'm so envious! I've always wanted to travel more and New Zealand is definitely on my list. How long were you there? What experience left the strong impression on you while you were there?" From there you can branch out naturally into other travel related topics, following the pnm's lead. If she has a great sense of humor, you may wind up swapping stories about the worst people to be seated next to on a long flight. If she seems more philanthropy focused, your conversation may veer into mission work opportunities abroad. The point is to let it flow naturally and steer it toward topics that allow the pnm to expand on her passions. That's the kind of conversation that makes the pnm feel special, like she made one of those mythical "connections".
Great conversationalist don't do the majority of the talking. They gently steer the conversation and pay close attention to their partner's verbal and nonverbal clues, but the other person unconsciously winds up doing most of the talking. That's the skill you should strengthen in your chapter. The "hostess" has to be totally engaged in the moment, not thinking about how hot the room is or wondering when she'll be bumped or why her boyfriend didn't call last night. For people who are naturally engaged in the moment, this type of conversation comes easily. But the rest of us can be taught this level of focus.