Ohhh no no no no. As I stated before, I don't regret anything I went through, and hell I would do it again all over!! Yes I was hazed, and I don't wish I could take back any part of my pledge process. It's all mental, what you can take and what you can't.
Yes you are correct, every campus is different. I'm sure Greek Life at every school is different as well. I was stating what it would be like at my school, had somebody reported an organization. We as a greek community stand up for one another and won't let one go. It's just the way we do things.
It just makes me mad when those girls on MTV think arts and crafts are SO hard. That's ridiculous. If they think arts and crafts are bad, try pledging my sorority ladies!
Anyway, sorry had to put my two cents in.
I totally agree with you about all campuses are different. But you also have to be aware of the situation that every freshmen is put into when they enter a college or university. They don't know what's right and what's wrong. They don't know what hazing is, atleast my pledge class and other pledge classes of other organizations didn't. We went through it, because we wanted to. I don't know any girl who pledged from a sorority on my campus, that wished she could take it all back.
I liked the way you stated your opinion without putting mine down at the same time, thank you!
PS - For a side note for posts and threads after this. Be aware of everybody's situation. Know they they didn't go through the same thing you did, and dont be naive.
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Originally posted by sweetie adpi
natalie, i'm very sorry about the experience that you have had. obviously it was a bad one that has left a very bitter taste in your mouth. but i'd like to point out that every campus is a very different place, and had you been at my school, i can guarantee that not all greek life would have hated you. i would have stood behind you 100% and i know many others who would have as well.
this past year one of the new members of another sorority was uncomfortable with one of the "traditions" of her sorority. it was a tradition that the new member classes make up songs to perform at their pledge formal for the rest of the sorority. evidently, these songs were insulting to the other sororities on campus, as well as offensive in general, and showed a lack of self respect for the new members. the new member went to our greek advisor, who was shocked to find out about the tradition. an ultimatum was given to the sorority, and to the other three chapters on campus. such a tradition would stop immediately and if any of us were found to be doing something like this, she would call our national headquarters about it, and also have the school sanction us. well although it scared the sorority in question, it made them see that not all sisters were comfortable with this tradition, which was something they had not realized.
once it was brought to their attention, they fully supported the new member and realized that something that was supposed to be innocent had grown into something that could be considered hazing. all of the sororities supported the new member, in that we agreed no one should be made to feel uncomfortable doing something, even if we think that it is something innocent, we still need to send the message that we are openminded and heedful of individual's feelings, and that it's important as a member of a sisterhood that we support one another and watch out for one another and make sure that all are comfortable with the activities of the chapter.
anyways, i just want to point out that not all campuses have the same positions and some are more openminded, and mindful of the feelings of their members. we don't want to lose that one member who if she hadn't felt so uncomfortable that she felt she had to leave the system or the school, could have made a huge difference in our community and/or been an extraordinary leader. that's not what a sisterhood is about, and if the whole greek community ostracizes someone for standing up for how they feel, then that is certainly a greek community that doesn't know the meaning of sisterhood or brotherhood and one i would never want to be a part of.
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