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Originally Posted by Jd24
I have had the worst luck with recruitment. I am currently a junior had did formal recruitment three times!
The first time i got into a sorority with a good rep however didnt feel like i 100% fit. So there was a part of me that wanted to try again to get a better fit and a large part of it was the fact that my boyfriend at the time hated it (threatened to break up with me over it) so i ended up dropping the bid after one day. I did formal again the following year and was prefed by an okay sorority however was never offered a bit. Soooo my junior year i forced myself to go through the process again. This time i was dropped before pref by the two chapters who kept asking me back the previous years, either which i would of been okay with. However both dropped me and i ended up with a bid from a chapter that doesnt have a good rep. I dont mean to sound superficial (im sure ill get hate for this) but everyone strives to be in the "top" sorority and this chapter is second to bottom. Needless to say im devastated.
This was my last chance to save my college experience that has yet to live up to the hype. (Havent made many friends) My school is very big in greek life and i just wish i could say that im proud of the chapter im in. Everytime i see my chapter im reminded of what other chapters i wish i was in. Its a huge regret the haunts me, i wish more than anything i could go back and stop myself from dropping the bid freshman year. Now that im a junior i have no hope to changing the outcome. I keep going back in time thinking about what i should of done, if i should of dropped before pref and hoped for a snapbid.
Ive been a new member for two weeks now and still unhappy with the chapter. I dont want to be embarrassed to wear my letters. I wish i could flaunt them and be proud of where i am. Every girl i talk to in the chapter all say that it wasnt their first choice so i know im not alone. Alot of the girls who ended up with this chapters bid ended up dropping.
Im also planning on going to graduate school after but i dont think that gives me any more hope to join another chapter. (Ive always wanted to live in a chapter house too)
So i guess im seeking advise, or anything thatll make me feel better and not disappointed where i ended up, or any possibility of hope???
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First, you sound really ungrateful and you should just drop. Please stop wasting everyone's time. The things I put in bold in pink are things I think need to be addressed. So, first you went through and got a bid to a sorority with a "good reputation" but, then you dropped it because you weren't feeling 100% with it. You went through a second time but, then didn't get a bid. You didn't get a bid any where? The third time, you went through and received a bid from what you believe to be a sorority chapter that is beneath you. You say all this but, you noted that your college hype hasn't lived up to what you hoped because (your words, not mine) you "Havent made many friends." Maybe you haven't made many friends because you go around acting like you are above other people in the different sororities.
For starters, after seeing that you can't differentiate between advice and advise, don't capitalize your "I" when speaking about yourself, and don't know how to use apostrophes, it makes me think that you probably got dropped from the various houses for reasons other than your poor attitude. All of this makes me hope that you are not attending any of my alma maters or are a member of my organization. In fact, I don't think any of my NPC sisters should have to call someone so ungrateful their sister. If you, as a junior, are too good for this house because they are second to bottom then you should just quit. You talk about wanting to go to graduate school too. Worry about your grades and improving your writing before looking to apply. Another thing is that once you get to graduate school, no one cared if you were the "top" or the "bottom" sorority. I've met women from the "bottom" sorority on their campus and you would never know because they are smart, beautiful, and the types of women I'd be proud to call sisters. It sounds like you have some growing up to do.