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Confused, you are making things too compicated for yourself. Your school is not that different from most schools with large numbers of chapters. The unusual school are in the South (S E C and some ACC) and IU or Texas. Those are not your schools. So, truly, there is nothing unusual about recruitment at your school, and given the number of sororities, I have a hunch which it is. The advice given applies.

Sophomore status at your school is not a game-ender, so fall recruitment is feasible. Declining two bids is not a burned bridge because those two were issued way too early in informal (and those chapters probably know it). You have some relatively new chapters at your school.

However, you have seen more than a third of the chapters. That is a pretty good representation.

Making decisions does not come easy to you, but you need to practice. And you need to practice with less than 100 percent information. Decisions made by default or by others will not develop that skill and may not align with your desires. Make pros and cons lists, review them with your Mom, play eeny-meeny-minie-moe, but just make yourself choose: informal or formal. Either is a valid choice. (And, no, we will not tell you which one to make.)

Many of the posters here are from schools or have advisory experience with schools in your region. The advice has been quite accurate. The core issue is that you are uncomfortable with decisions, but the good news is that is a skill that you can develop! Now is a good time to do so.: )